I wrote pertaining to soulmates about a year ago and I have to stand corrected. I was so in bliss over my new relationship that I made a mistake. Discrediting my previous relationship as a soul mate just because it showed up in a different form.
In theory, a karmic relationship is a person (can be friends, family or a lover) who is aligned with your soul but they are with you only to challenge your soul or influence or awaken you in some way or another. They fulfill a passion or desire that needs to be learned. The relationship is emotional driven, full of highs and lows. A karmic relationship teaches you lessons by stirring and pushing you to a higher state of consciousness. After you’ve transcended and the assignment or guidance is complete, physical separation typically happens.
Karmic relationships arrive at a specific time when something needs to find closure. Amazing lessons come through these relationships. The love that is shared is ecstatic and is full of hard obstacles. The two of you are trying to find footing in a relationship that brings out the best and worst in each other.
Karmic relationships have a deep connection through heart and consciousness. They hit the ego and bring about turmoil. The relationships are intense and full of transitions. These beautiful experiences usually end in broken hearts. They bring with them karmic lessons that need to be completed in this incarnation.
On the other hand, a life partner is a companion, a friend, the person you depend on to assist you through life. The relationship is based on logical and intellectual stimulation. You are both in sync with eachother’s needs and wants. They are the support that encourages you to take risks. They have similar interests in your life and are spiritually and emotionally connected without egotistical notions. You feel at ease with this person. There is a sense of security in the relationship and the trust transitions into a friendship that is profound and everlasting. Regardless of the obstacles that occur in life, they stick around like a pillar of strength. This causes love to grow more and more everyday.
Life partners arrive at a moment when there is self love and acceptance. You are no longer needing to fulfill an emptiness that cannot be explained. These partners join you with similar stories. They are there for the long haul.
Regardless of how much heartache I’ve experienced when I was in my karmic relationship, I’m certain that he arrived not a minute later than I was ready for him. So I’m grateful for the encounter. He brought things out of me that I never knew existed on the highs and lows. It was challenging and very extreme on the positive and negative side, but the growth that occurred was tremendous. I was constantly being shown myself and I still remember vividly, the moment I knew I had finally mastered the lessons that I was destined to fulfill and was ready for separation. I had reached that next level. As a result, when my life partner showed up, I was prepared, open and accepting of the relationship. There was a magnetic feeling, a knowing that automatically attracted me to him. Which typically happens when you meet a soulmate. Now granted, we have many similarities, simultaneously, we also have many differences that have enhanced our emotional connection. We’re always eager to know more about one another and it’s a constant experience of learning and teaching eachother. Yet our values and beliefs resonate and combine so well. Each conversation is just enjoyable and it’s been the most refreshing relationship I’ve ever known. He’s my best friend and everything about him has been exciting and feels new. He feels like home and as cliche as this sounds, I now know, everything happens for a reason.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
— Elizabeth Gilbert