Playa Carrillo, Guanacaste, Costa Rica

Guanacaste, Costa Rica is one of the loveliest places I have ever experienced. The hospitality, the people, the views & the food were everything that I could have imagined. From zip lining in the rainforest, horseback riding, the mud bath, hot springs, beautiful beach (with the best masseuses ever), just to summarize my stay. Plus, I got to test my 6 years of middle/high school Spanish consistently. I’d definitely recommend this place and hope to be back in the future.

P.S. Photoventura is the place that took the gorgeous beach shots of my friends and I. Their service was beyond amazing & if you’re ever in Guanacaste, make sure you ask for Mila. The best photographer ever. She went above and beyond to make our photos special. I loved her so much!

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Birthday Behavior – 30 on 30💕🎉👑

“I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances, be more active, show up more often.”  — Brian Tracy

*screams internally*

Waking up in Costa Rica on this 30th day for my 30th year is a blessing in itself. May every year of my entire 30’s begin in a new destination as long as Allah grants me the will to do so 🙏🏽. May I never take the luxuries I have access to for granted. May I embrace every new experience and cultivate it for the enrichment of my life’s journey. Amen!

For the first time ever, I don’t want to be as vulnerable. Yet, I promise to always remain transparent. I’ve always written from my heart and shared the things I’ve experienced and what I have learned most from my previous year of birth. However, this year, I feel it’s time to move in a different direction. Becoming more private and embracing my life – the bad and the good alone, in hopes that it will push me to new levels and truly grow. I’ve been going through my saturn return since January and with 5 more months left – as my life continues to transform, I just want to be quiet. The battle I am facing with who I am as a person, how I feel, what I want and what I need, is not open for discussion with anyone else other than God and myself. There is still something I am in search of. I don’t have all the answers and to be honest, I don’t know what that something is. I know I carry myself with dignity and grace, but I promise I don’t have it all together. When you see me, understand, I am still trying to figure life out just like the next person. I didn’t even know who I was until a few years ago and now I don’t even feel like that person is me anymore. There are parts of me that have been sleep and I can’t play with time any longer. 🗣I NEED TO WAKE THE HELL UP! I felt fulfilled months ago and now the thought of being complacent is terrifying. Comfort has become scary to me because I never want to settle for the bare minimum. It’s time to move larger in life; make something more of myself; give more of myself. I’ve come so far and have accomplished so much to be where I am today, but I know there are things I need to be honest about and change within myself before I can transcend to this next level. I’ve slipped back into some old behaviors and I refuse to not learn the lesson, fail the tests and repeat the same old cycles.

On the flip side as I have gotten closer to this day, I’ve taken heed on how confident I am within myself. I spend way more time by myself nowadays. More often than I used to. I move at the beat of my own drum every single day and work on my own time. There is not one other person’s company I currently crave more than my own. I am at my most peaceful state when I am alone. Self love has become my main priority. There are so many things about me that I love, but there are just as many things about me that I am discovering that hinders my elevation. This period has been conducive to helping me identify with and shedding those behaviors.

“Calling yourself out on your own bullshit is primary self-care.”

– Ayishat A. Akanbi

To the people that have been patient and understanding with me as I grow through this next phase, I thank you so much. Your grace has been a lesson in itself. I pray that you are more pleased with the improved and healed me that is awaiting to greet you on the other side. Cheers to 30: All the preparation is going to finally pay off because God is…!

 

 

***BONUS***

30 Life Lessons I’ve Learned In 30 Years

  1. Everyone is growing. You either grow with or outgrow each other.
  2. Meditation will change your life.
  3. Never be afraid to ask for assistance. We can’t do it all.
  4. Learn to accept constructive criticism without feeling attacked.
  5. People will say a lot without any action for as long as you accept it.
  6. Not everyone deserves access to your love.
  7. Your comfort zone is a dangerous place. Never remain complacent.
  8. If you’re not passionate about it, is it really worth the time?
  9. Longevity is key.
  10. Know your worth + add tax, and never compromise it.
  11. Continuously learn. You never know what doors a new skill will open for you.
  12. Look good and smell good, but don’t forget your confidence. It’ll take you far!
  13. Read often and watch how your vocabulary naturally advances.
  14. Experience is life’s best teacher.
  15. You can’t avoid setbacks but no matter the circumstance, you can bounce back.
  16. Learn the lesson to avoid repeating the test.
  17. Resilience/Dedication/Consistency will pay off. Don’t ever give up on your dreams.
  18. Don’t rush life trying to beat a time table. God has the final say.
  19. Be flexible.
  20. Spontaneity in moderation is a thrill worth feeling.
  21. Be honest with yourself and own your shit.
  22. Healthy love is the only option. Don’t let them convince you of anything less than.
  23. You can’t predict the future but you can take the necessary actions to create it.
  24. There is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist.
  25. You can’t change anyone other than yourself.
  26. Life goes on.
  27. People will pick apart your truth no matter what it is. Rumors/Opinions don’t deserve your attention.
  28. Self care is a necessity. You need time to recharge often.
  29. Never place your happiness in the hands of someone else.
  30. Everyone has their own definition of loyalty. Make sure you are knowledgeable of theirs.

 

2017 Year in Reflection

This year has felt like a lifetime. Everything accelerated within a twelve month span. But had it not been for the tools that the previous years equipped me with, I wouldn’t still be standing confidently today. If I had to think of the biggest lesson I learned, it would be: 2017 taught me to stand in my power. I learned the truest meaning of independence and self confidence.

2015 taught me to be fearless. With that characteristic, when a new opportunity presented itself to me in January of this year, that was something I’d never done before, regardless of whatever, I found the courage within myself to push through. Being forced completely out of my comfort zone with the new opportunity helped me to realize that I am someone I never knew I was. My self confidence is now on another level. Definitely a breakthrough in knowing that on the other side of fear is self discovery.

2016 taught me to be proactive. This became a benefit to me in August of this year when I felt as if my life was in shambles. There’s always an angle that I have thought of so just in case, I can cope and persevere through effortlessly. Everything that could go wrong DID go wrong in August, but it taught me the art of letting go. Whatever the universe was doing, I wasn’t fighting it this time. Let the chips fall where they may but I will always be alright.

As proven, in fact, I was alright. By November, life had turned completely back around and having the right attitude was beginning to pay off. Here it is December, and my opportunities are constantly flowing in. My heart is grateful because the truest lesson of opposition has taught me that I’m unbreakable. I have overcome so much in the last 8 years that the problems I face now, I handle effortlessly.

That love that I used to notoriously brag about all 2016 and halfway through this year? Well, it went stale! Nothing bad happened. We’re still cool and he’ll always be a love that changed me forever. But I definitely learned a new lesson with love: there’s no such thing as right person, wrong time. If the timing is wrong, so is the person and you can’t live your life on pause for the timing to align. Two years of that bliss feeling but just because it didn’t turn out the way I thought it would doesn’t mean it didn’t serve it’s purpose. Ultimately, I think the lesson of meeting him was to show me at a time where I thought I’d never be able to move on to anyone after my previous love, is that my heart could still feel “bigly” for someone else. He’s still one of my favorite people to have known, and although our friendship might be distant, the memories are forever. No matter how your heart feels, make sure your mind is never clouded by it. I was so quick to label this relationship as a “life partner” or “soulmate” when the timing of life just proved that it was a “karmic relationship”. The lesson from that is, you still don’t know the purpose of someone’s existence in your life and you can’t really define it until you have had a quality amount of evolvement to look back upon it.

Currently, my focus is on nurturing my career. So much to look forward to. I accidentally fell into my purpose at the end of 2016 while I was working a career that has been in my blood and I am so good at. Here I am now, juggling two careers, two different lanes and yet thriving in both. Not to mention, I am also developing a third career that I am also very passionate about. I came up with the concept two years ago and placed it on the back burner. However, I decided to bring my three closest friends along to partner with me on this journey as I’m ready to bring it to life. I’m feeling really good about what will crystalize from this. My income is now tied to purpose and passion and it’s honestly the greatest feeling.

Astrology keeps hinting at this time of my life being golden for partnership and marriage. I want to believe it but I’ve gotten way too excited too soon recently. If marriage & kids are for me, then I’ll gladly accept that role when the time seems fit. But where I am internally, even if the universe doesn’t see that, that life is for me, I am also at peace with it. I’m not desperate, rushing a biological clock or timeline because what I won’t do, is settle for bad decisions. I have learned to release control of what things “should” be and accept life for what it is. I’m not going to stop living my best life no matter what cards are dealt to me. This is my happy currently and it’s peaceful while I’m playing my hand to its fullest extent!

In retrospect I learned that I am a very powerful visionary and my level of determination is legendary. I became a new me in 2015, so as we are hours away from a new year, a better me is awaiting. I’ll still love, still laugh, still give my all, still maintain my peace, still travel, and make sure i’m guided into intelligent decisions, just on a progressive level.

May 2018 be a life evolving year in a positive way for us all ✨

Insecurity

In my opinion, if a person is loud about something, that is what they are most insecure about. I remember when I was in a not so good relationship. I constantly reminded everybody how so in love I was or how good we were by daily social media post, but that was furthest from the truth most of the time. There’s a thin line between insecurity and actually being proud of something. Nothing shows just how secure and at peace you are about something more than the ability to not have to show you are just that. When you actually have it, you don’t feel the need to be loud about it.

9 Ways To Increase Your Intelligence Naturally

1. Exercise – healthy body, healthy mind. Moving into the body is a great way to promote healthy brain function as it releases endorphins and other chemicals which help to improve memory and cognitive function.

2. Vitamin B – linked to memory & mood. Being deficient in B vitamins can lead to a decline in our mental capabilities, some people even report having hallucinations as a result of having deficiencies in certain B vitamins. The best way to get these in our diets without supplementation is with turkey, beans, lentils & bananas.

3. Reading – learn from the greatest minds in history. Reading not only improves our ability to concentrate but it also allows us to acquire knowledge that can help us along our journeys from some of the greatest thought leaders of all time. Robert Green, Steven Covey, Frederick Nietzche & Napoleon Hill are authors that have shared great wisdom that has led millions to success.

4. Antioxidants – to combat free radicals in the body. Free radicals are chemicals that can be harmful for our cells, they can be accumulated naturally or with the foods we eat – the body’s defence against them is antioxidants. We can find antioxidants in foods such as red kidney beans, blueberries and cranberries – they also help to improve memory & problem solving.

5. Sleep – the body needs time to repair. The majority of us need 7-8 hours of sleep per day, during this time the body repairs itself and the mind can process the day’s events and strengthen the memory. Not getting enough sleep can cause us to have low mood, irritability and poor cognitive function.

6. Avocado – healthy fats. Avocados are made up of monounsaturated fats which are the good kind, these fats are used to create brain cells and they also increase blood flow. The brain needs blood to function optimally, so eating avocados can help greatly, they even help to reduce blood pressure.

7. Creativity – express yourself. Using the mind to create rather than just to get through the day-to-day stuff we go through improves our ability to think. Creativity also encourages other ways of thinking about problems we encounter because we are using different parts of the brain.

8. Vitamin E – a vital nutrient. Vitamin E is essential for brain health, a deficiency of E vitamins can lead to the early onset of Alzheimer’s disease as well as poor brain function. We can find Vitamin E in leafy greens, kiwis and nuts – adding these into our diets can help us to avoid mental decline in old age.

9. Meditation – clearing the mind. From approximately 8 years of age the left and right hemispheres of our brain begin to disconnect – meditation can help us to reconnect the hemispheres of the brain and promote whole brain synchronisation. Meditation also increases the brain’s ability to make physiological changes such as increasing grey and white brain matter – grey is for muscle control and sensory action & the white matter carries nerve impulses.

peace. love. & positivity.

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What to do When you Feel Negative

1. Be honest with yourself, and accept how you feel. You can’t work with your feelings if you deny that they are real. 

2. At the same time, don’t keep going over the negative events, or they’ll start to dominate you, or spiral, and get worse. 

3. Don’t react right away – take a breath and count to 10. Make sure you keep control and don’t do something you’ll regret. 

4. Try to notice what are triggers and provoke negative feelings – and when you’re calm, try to think through how to cope and deal with these. 

5. Think of things that you can do to try and help improve your mood … such as going for a jog, or talking with a caring friend. 

6. Remind yourself that you are valuable, and have a lot to offer … and think of all your strengths, and all the good things you have done. 

7. Choose just to let go of the past, and try to focus on the present. Don’t let it stop you living, and having a great life.

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7 Ways To Create A Great Relationship With Yourself

1. Meditation – tune into the voice within. Meditation strengthens the relationship we have with ourselves because we make time to listen to our self-talk. Being completely present with ourselves allows us to understand what’s truly important to us – what do we desire the most? What’s taking our focus away from the now? What do we want from the time we have left on the planet? Answering these questions paves the way for us to take action & create a life we love.

2. Treat yourself – self-love dates. The relationship we have with ourselves is the relationship we will have with others – we are all reflections of each other. We attract those of a similar vibrational nature to ourselves, so if we neglect ourselves, we are likely to attract someone who will neglect us. When we treat ourselves the way we would want our partner to treat us we align our vibration to that of the type of people we want to attract.

3. Healthy foods – healthy food = healthy mind. A healthy relationship with ourselves does not involve poisoning the body by feeding it processed foods & drugs like alcohol. These substances introduce toxicity to the mind and this negatively impacts the relationship we have with ourselves. Seeing ourselves as worthy of a healthy, functioning body is a great way to heal this damage & help us to see ourselves with unconditional positive regard.

4. Positive energy – surround yourself with the people you love. Spending time around negative people is a form of self-hate – because we are choosing to put ourselves in a situation that doesn’t serve us. This causes us to take on negative energy from these people – which affects the way we see ourselves & the world we live in. Negative energy can encourage us to give up on our dreams, abuse our bodies & minds and settle for a life we hate.

5. Creativity – express yourself. Pent-up emotions & thoughts can result in poor mental health – expressing ourselves creatively is a great way to allow these emotions to flow through us instead of building resistance within. When we create we are allowing ourselves to be heard & seen – which nurtures the relationship we have with ourselves & creates optimal wellbeing.

6. Nature – hit the reset button & find peace. Often times we can find ourselves rushing about & always trying to get somewhere – making time to be still in nature allow us to hit the reset button. This is essential for creating a healthy relationship with ourselves as it allows us to gain perspective on what’s truly important to us instead of allowing the mind to remain occupied by thoughts of the past and future. Tuning into the now & being in nature go hand in hand because we find ourselves in tune with the natural vibration of the planet.

7. Authenticity – be true to yourself. Lying to ourselves & settling for less than we’re truly worth destroys the relationship we have with ourselves and encourages us to seek out external distractions from the turmoil within. Doing what we want, when we want & with who we want is the way to be at peace – this can only be done when we prioritise our mental health & wellbeing above all else. We can’t be of service to others if we are at war with ourselves.

#SELFLOVESUNDAY

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